Monday, March 30, 2009

(Image from Men's Health)
Reverse Cowgirl

Hi Go-to girl!

First of all I want to convey that I love your blog and appreciate all the tips you give in it. I discovered it by chance a few months ago. So, I thought I'd finally take the time to ask two questions I'm curious to know the answer to. Hope you can answer them.

1. When on top, cowgirl style, do you have any tips on how to position oneself to gain maximum thrusting power? I feel like I can't quite get "things going".

2. Not a question related to technique or anything like that, but I'd love to know a couple of the things that you've experienced guys to have uttered/exclaimed in the moment of orgasm, whether during oral or *regular* sex. Would be fun and interesting to know. I know I've heard some funny, adorable and weird things during the times I've had sex.



Dear Nicki,

Thanks! I love flattery! I also love that you love the tips I give. Really.

Generally speaking, girl-on-top rhythm, regardless of position, depends on two things: the shakiness of the bed/other surface you're on and whether you can get/maintain a rhythm with the guy you're on top of. If your bed is shaky, try doing it on the floor. You'll also be better anchored if you rest your knees on the sex surface instead of your feet. Squatting allows you to control how much of him is inside you, but it doesn't give you as much oomph and stability as being on your knees.

As to the second question, I don't kiss and tell (!) but there are generally two varieties of people who talk during sex: narrators and directors. Narrators give you a play-by-play of the action and, usually, tell you how hot it is every minute. Directors take the lead and tell you what to do and when, where, and how to do it. Both narration and direction can be hot, but you have my sympathies if you wind up in bed with someone who tries to do both. Talking during sex is hot because it punctuates the action; constant talking, on the other hand, is a turnoff.

That said, I honestly can't even remember anything notable that I've heard (or said). They say that the brain shuts down during orgasm which, for those who are inclined to say weird stuff at orgasm, is probably a good thing.



Monday, March 23, 2009

Vasectomy: The Gift That Keeps on Giving

Vasectomy really is the gift that keeps on giving. And apparently an increasing number of guys are responding to the terrible economy (which has disproportionately affected men) by getting snipped.

Vasectomy is a simple procedure where the vas deferens are cut, cauterized, or plugged up so that sperm doesn't get into seminal fluid (read: "cum") and pregnancy doesn't happen. According to Managing Contraception, the failure rate is just .1%, which means that of 1,000 couples depending on vasectomy to prevent pregnancy, only one will get pregnant over the course of one year. Pretty good odds.

In the United States, vasectomy is not routinely intended as a reversible, long term method of birth control for men but in other countries (especially China) the procedure is increasingly seen as semi-permanent. Anyone who's driven on 290 between Houston and Austin has seen the giant billboards that shout "VASECTOMY REVERSAL."

In the States we're not onboard with the idea that vasectomy can be performed with the intent that it will later be reversed, but success rates continue to rise and eventually, the Big V will probably be used routinely for long term birth control for guys. I, for one, am happy to shift the burden of pregnancy prevention to guys. And really, it only hurts for a minute.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Cheap Contraceptives Back On Campus!

Hooray for all girls in college who like to have sex and avoid getting pregnant: today Obama signed into law the new appropriations bill which will again allow college health centers (and other places) to purchase contraceptives from manufacturers at insanely low prices.

Planned Parenthood sent out a press release this morning heralding Congress' passage of the bill without fuss over the birth control measure, and Obama's John Hancock (nee Herbie Hancock, for you 'Tommy Boy' fans) makes it official.

It's impossible to say when this will actually take effect in college health centers but hopefully it will happen soon. The days of $5 Nuva Rings are back!