Tuesday, June 30, 2009

How do you buy "My First Vibrator"
when it's not for you?

The SaSi, exclusively at Babeland

Dear Go-To Girl,

My sister has never used a vibrator---can you believe that??? She will not insert anything so I think she just needs something to stimulate her clitoris. But nothing wimpy----- I want it to be mind blowing!!! Thanks for your help!!!


Dear Jackie,

What a great sister you are! I love my siblings but I don't think even I would ever buy any of them sex toys--I think they would probably disown me.

For clitoral stimulation, you have a couple of options. The most basic and inexpensive is a bullet-style vibrator, which is held in the hand. The Bnaughty is small and has a "velvet" plastic texture, which means it will provide some friction against the skin of the vulva and clitoris, which is key. Bnaughty features multiple speeds and isn't too loud, which is an important feature for women trying out their first vibe who might be nervous about kids or housemates hearing their toy.

The heavy artillery comes in the form of the Hitachi Magic Wand, which will reliably take most women from zero to orgasm in about 60 seconds. The Hitachi is legendary--Samantha famously burned through one on "Sex and the City"--but it's neither delicate in its touch nor low in decibel level. But the Magic Wand has a very loyal user base because it always does the trick. It also plugs into the wall so your sister will never need to buy batteries.

For the clit-stim connoisseur, the Nea by Lelo is a small, handheld vibrator that is rechargeable. It has a slight curve which makes it easy to be in contact with the clit without making your hand too tired. Made out of hard plastic, this toy will glide over your girl parts with ease. Small enough to be used during sex with a partner, too.
Another idea, though it's not technically a vibrator, is the super-luxe SaSi from Babeland. I don't normally recommend toys I haven't tried myself, but this one seems so cool that I don't want to leave it out. The SaSi has small beads inside that are meant to replicate the feeling of a tongue on your clit. Sounds good to me.

Here's a video explaining how it works:

Good luck! And if you order through any of the links in this post, Babeland gives me 20% of the purchase price for sending business their way.

Go-To Girl

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Back From Vacation: Hello, Syphilis!

One of the campaign's comic strips.

Don't worry mom and dad, I don't have syphilis. However, syphilis is my favorite sexually transmitted infection, mostly because I love the words associated with it (syphilitic, chancre, tertiary) and I also love that anybody who's anybody in history who didn't die violently in armed conflict probably died of syphilis.

Syphilis has been on the rise for a while now in states as varied as Michigan and Vermont, and its made a huge comeback in cities like Houston and New York. According to my sources at the Austin Travis County Department of Health and Human Services STD Prevention Program, the syph is also on the rise here in Austin.

So I was overjoyed when reading Babeland's blog to discover that the San Francisco Department of Public Health has refreshed their Healthy Penis campaign devoted to identifying syphilis in gay men. Part of me has a hard time imagining gay men in San Francisco being persuaded to do anything by these cartoons but apparently the campaign has been a success.

Public sexual health efforts in San Francisco sometimes, if we're lucky, trickle down to the rest of the country so while I don't envision plush penises walking around Texas promoting STI testing, maybe San Francisco's cheeky, sex positive approach will have some effect on programs here. Here's an example: the Houston Department of Health and Human Services website--which contains no photos of genitalia or cartoon penises--displays the following warning at the bottom of the page:

This site contains HIV prevention messages that may not be appropriate for all audiences. Since HIV is spread primarily through sexual practices or by sharing needles, prevention messages on this site may address these topics. HIV prevention materials funded by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) must be approved by local materials review panels. If you are not seeking such information or may be offended by such materials, please exit this website.

Gotta love Texas.

*For an interesting (but old) powerpoint on the history of syphilis, click here.