Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Oral Sex Week, Part 2


Monica: My future husband just doesn't seem to like giving oral sex me: uh oh
Monica: we have been open talked about it
and he makes alot of effort
but his dislike comes out in his effort
we have a ridiculous sex life
amazing in every other way
what to do?
me: how does his dislike come out?
gagging?
Monica: hahaha
No more in a begrudging attitude
me: like, 'well, okay, i'll go down on you'?
Monica: yes

I've heard a lot of this lately: girls that just loooove giving blowjobs and somehow wind up with a boyfriend who, at best, begrudgingly goes downtown. I can understand this in the abstract because of ye olde argument that giving a good blowjob is an exercise in "power" and whatever. Why the converse isn't true for dudes, I'm not sure.

Of course there are guys like Dr. Ian Kerner, who just can't wrap their mouth around enough pussy. I'm reading his book, She Comes First, right now and his love for poon really comes through. It's good advice for anybody who's really motivated to make oral sex great, but I don't think it would convince those pussy-skeptics to really get into it.

Anonymous commenters, let's hear from you. I can understand that there are guys who might be, um, oriented away from oral sex but it just so happens that, in my sex life, those guys get oriented right back out the door.

Discuss.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I would say that most men are very lazy. And easily fall into the same clock in clock out.
To me ejaculation means absolutely nothing without joyous foreplay, especially with a well groomed partner. I am not talking Brazilian either.
I would suggest taking over if he cant find the interests on his own. Dominate your husband for a while. Show him whose hips are boss. Let the Grind off begin.
Another thing I'd would mention, if he isn't willing to learn about what makes your body feel good..should'nt there be some kind of second guessing about marriage? Oral sex is and should be easy and fun, not a chore.That is what dirty dishes and laundry are there for..Best of Fuck
XOTC

Anonymous said...

i think oral sex dymanics depend on relationship patterns. in my experience, the guys that i have gone down on before they've gone down on me, tended to have a habit of expecing oral and not giving back. but when i've waited to get before i give, i end up with more over the course of the relationship. also, my bf is reading over my shoulder, and he says that grooming is what really motivates him to give oral. (hint, hint)